ESSENCE.COM: There have been rumors in the blogosphere about the fragility of your relationship with your eldest daughter, Tierra. How is your relationship with your daughter and how is she enjoying the show?
WHITFIELD: She likes the show and we have a great relationship and you just have to take the good and the bad when it comes to rumors. I want to mentor young girls. A lot of times they become young mothers and think, I’ve made a mistake, I’ve gotten myself pregnant. They continue the cycle by having more kids. Yes you can continue to dream and you can still finish school and be who you want to be. Your life is not over.
ESSENCE.COM: You mentioned that you don’t check the blogs, but they definitely have their eyes on you. Is it true that you gave one of your party planners a bounced check?
WHITFIELD: I’ve heard that one. And if I gave you a bounced check, sweetie, post the check. Don’t talk about it. One lesson I have learned through this is you realize who your real friends are. I found out someone who [I thought] was close to me has been sending a lot of the negative stuff to different bloggers. I guess I cut her 15 minutes to 2. That was an eye opener.
ESSENCE.COM: So what do you think is the biggest misconception about you?
WHITFIELD: People are focusing on one facet of my personality but I am multifaceted. I am like a diamond and have many sides. I am a sweet person and loyal. I’m real and down-to-earth. And I am drama-free. Anybody who knows me knows I do not do the drama. Again, it’s crazy because on the show; it looks different but you can’t control that. When you are [followed], taped for months, and that [content] is edited, you become a character. Even so, I get so many e-mails from young girls that say I inspire them or that they admire me. If I can inspire one person, then I’ve done a tremendous service. So regardless of negative comments, that one e-mail outweighs the others.