Here are a few pieces of advice from Harvey:
1. A man is only doing one or two things with you. He’s either playing with you, or planning with you.
You want the guy with the plan for you. If he’s “just kicking it” with you, he’s just not that into you.
2. Ask a man what his goals are on the first date.
If the man you are dating’s main goal is to become the biggest drug dealer in your neighborhood, it’ll be good to know before you become too entrenched in his world, so you can get out before you get caught up. Unless of course you’re into that sort of thing, then by all means, stay.
3. Institute a three month rule.
According to Harvey, Ford Motor Company requires employees to work for a 90 day probationary period before they awarded benefits such as medical and dental insurance. He says women should treat the first three months with a man as a probationary period and institute a three month rule before having sex with a guy.
4. If you go to you man with a situation that is fixable and he doesn’t try to fix it – he is not your man. He is not in love with you.
If your car breaks down and your boo doesn’t offer you a ride to work and he has to pass your job to get to his, and you’re left to wait for the bus, you have a problem.
Harvey also outlines the three ways a man will show his love for a woman. We’ll refer to them as the three P’s.
After six months he should introduce you to people as his woman, girlfriend, lady, fiance, wife or something. Not as his friend, and definitely not just by your name. In the book Harvey writes “The man who truly has feelings for you will give you a title. That title is his way of letting everyone within the sound of his voice know that he is proud of being with you and that he has plans for you.”
Self explanatory. If a man loves you, he will provide for you.
On a recent visit to Oprah, Harvey tells the story of going deep sea diving with his wife. He’s not into diving so he instructed his security guard to to swim around and keep an eye on her. The dive masters were instructed that if his wife did not come back up, everyone was to get into the water to look for her. If a man is into you, he will do everything in his power to protect you.