Steve Harvey tells the ladies how it is….

Here are a few pieces of advice from Harvey:

1. A man is only doing one or two things with you. He’s either playing with you, or planning with you.
You want the guy with the plan for you. If he’s “just kicking it” with you, he’s just not that into you.
2. Ask a man what his goals are on the first date.
If the man you are dating’s main goal is to become the biggest drug dealer in your neighborhood, it’ll be good to know before you become too entrenched in his world, so you can get out before you get caught up. Unless of course you’re into that sort of thing, then by all means, stay.
3. Institute a three month rule.
According to Harvey, Ford Motor Company requires employees to work for a 90 day probationary period before they awarded benefits such as medical and dental insurance. He says women should treat the first three months with a man as a probationary period and institute a three month rule before having sex with a guy.
4. If you go to you man with a situation that is fixable and he doesn’t try to fix it – he is not your man. He is not in love with you.
If your car breaks down and your boo doesn’t offer you a ride to work and he has to pass your job to get to his, and you’re left to wait for the bus, you have a problem.

Harvey also outlines the three ways a man will show his love for a woman. We’ll refer to them as the three P’s.

1. Profess
After six months he should introduce you to people as his woman, girlfriend, lady, fiance, wife or something. Not as his friend, and definitely not just by your name. In the book Harvey writes “The man who truly has feelings for you will give you a title. That title is his way of letting everyone within the sound of his voice know that he is proud of being with you and that he has plans for you.”
2. Provide
Self explanatory. If a man loves you, he will provide for you.
3. Protect
On a recent visit to Oprah, Harvey tells the story of going deep sea diving with his wife. He’s not into diving so he instructed his security guard to to swim around and keep an eye on her. The dive masters were instructed that if his wife did not come back up, everyone was to get into the water to look for her. If a man is into you, he will do everything in his power to protect you.

Flyguy answers the question: Did He Just Want Sex?

Dear Fly Guy,

I’m a fan of your website and need some advice. Last year I began seeing my ex again. He was my first love, we met in college, dated for 4-5 years, but during that time we didn’t have sex.

We broke up years ago because he cheated on me, was immature and a liar. He would check in on me from time to time during those years, but I wouldn’t pay him any attention. Well, when he checked in last year, I decided that we could be friends, so we began to hang out again. We began spending a lot of time together, even though I told him that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. He said that was fine, but if I ever got ready to date and get serious again, he hoped that I would choose him.

Well recently, I was hanging out with some friends and this guy began hitting on me. It was in that moment that I decided that I really wanted to get back with my ex. Thinking he would be happy about it, he didn’t want to talk about a relationship and would just avoid the subject. So one night, I put it all on the line and told him that I wanted us to start dating exclusively. He told me he wasn’t ready to just date me, and he didn’t want to put a title on it (not even say we were hanging out.) I was confused and got so upset that I told him to stay away and not call, text or stop by anymore. My question is did he only come back for sex? Do you think he cared about (or even loved) me?

Thanks for the help!
Confused.

LMAO!!!!! Click here for his response………..

And here is mine….

Never apologize for demanding respect. You are to always be treated as a Queen.

Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. Youknow what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.

Never apologize for being you!

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT GOD LOVES YOU AND HE ALWAYS HAS YOUR BACK!

So in summary keep it moving and don’t look back!